ASK EROS: The Virgin Seductions

Hello darlings,

I trust everyone had a fun filled weekend and stayed safe while doing so?

Today we consider the case of poor Violet from Allentown, PA.  While Violet has found love (Your welcome Violet) she does have some concerns about a very important part of her relationship that hasn't been explored yet.

Intrigued?  So was I when she sent this question in... details after the jump.

Let's let Violet tell us the situation in her own words, shall we?



Well Violet, let me first say that while I can't particularly relate to your fiance's world view, it'd be irresponsible of me not say that it should be respected.  So long as its not causing harm to anyone else, every being should be entitled to their beliefs.

Unfortunately,  in this case it does seem to be causing harm to your libido and that's never anything I like to see.

So let me level with you.  The male of the species, any species really, is not particularly complicated when it comes to sex -- Their natural state is to want it.  If you want to put the moves on your man, go for it in whatever way you feel the most confident.  My educated guess is he'll respond.  Need some inspiration?  Here's a place to start ;)

Two caveats:

1: Wait for the right time.  If your fiance is pre-occupied, or upset about something, it might be tempting to try and distract him with your feminine wiles, but more than likely he may use whatever's bugging him as an excuse to resist. 

2: A little bit of reluctance on his part is to be expected from what you've told me.  But if he continues to resist go ahead and back off, and remember that its not you he's rejecting, he's just still holding tight to his notions on abstinence.

I know it's scary to think of getting married without knowing if you work as well under the sheets as over them, but if your relationship is wonderful as you've described... well, you don't really have anything to worry about.  And remember, your sex life is always a work in progress.  And that's a good thing.  It means that any time can be a "first time" for something.  Why, just look at all these suggestions on ways you can spice things up down the line.  Mmmmmmm.... in fact I'm getting a few ideas of my own.

So good luck Violet!  Be sure to keep me posted.

And what do think dear readers?  Is Violet making the right choice by attempting to, quite literally, charm the pants off her man?  Send me a comment and let me know.

-E